The Internet and Affairs
Today, the internet has become a dangerous place for spouses and couples, introducing cyber infidelity.
Often contact begins innocently - two people chatting about a common interest. A friendship forms, then expands and grows into a cyber-romance. In other cases, the anonymity of online lures an otherwise faithful spouse into "playing around."
It is commonly believed that a person who has an online "affair" would have strayed from the marriage anyway if they had the opportunity. The big difference is that online presents so many opportunities. And they can justify (in their own minds anyway) that it's a "safe" affair. After all, it isn't "real." It doesn't count, right? Wrong.
An on-line extramarital affair takes energy out of a marriage. In a growing number of cases, cyber-lovers have acted on their desires and met in real life.
If you are a spouse who suspects your partner might be having an online affair, wants to find out if he/she is telling the truth or has a need to discover details of the affair, the Toorak Detective Agency can help you.
Signs of Internet Infidelity
The "Quick Click" Frantic mouse clicking when you enter the room
Spending too much time on the net or while you are sleeping
The strong desire for privacy when On-Line
Purchase of a phone calling card
Signing up to multiple web-based email services
Protective of email/passwords

Clues That Your Partner is Having an Affair
Shortage of time - If someone is not with you, where are they? "Working late", company has functions more often or other meetings that must be attended, going out with friends.
Time unaccounted for - A short trip to the shop takes three hours. Partner comes home late all the time, goes for a walk around the block (walking dog) for too long a time.
Emails and pictures from the internet - Don't ignore this one. Separate, password protected chat name or email account. Statistics show that an internet relationship often escalates to an affair.
Money spent and unaccounted for. Check credit card receipts, cash advances, and anything that looks at all suspicious about where the money was spent. Red flag if your doesn't want you to see the phone or credit card bills, hides the bills when they come in or has the bills sent to work or a post office box.
Phone pages or text messages at odd times. Phone often turned off when you a together.
Changes to sexual relationship - Physical relationship drops off. Conversely, because the partner may ALSO wish to avoid suspicion, there might be an INCREASE in sex; new or unusual sexual positions.
Possessive of wallet, laptop, email, briefcase.
Phone manners change - Partner rushes to answer the phone, hang-ups, constantly checking caller id and deleting numbers, calls being made late at night, possessive of mobile phone.
Change in behavior towards you - Betrayer, usually because of guilt, can start being short, curt, or otherwise abusive towards you, making you at fault in order to justify the affair. "Tending" behavior, where the betrayer has to know where you are all the time so they can work in the adultery around your schedule.
Appearance - Forgets to wear wedding ring, new interest in clothing and appearance, smells freshly showered at 1:00 am, smells of different, unknown cologne.
Conversation - subjects never interested in before, new words and phrases.
